It is full of ups and downs (just like life in general).
The key is to realize a “step backwards” isn’t a failure.
It’s necessary.
Diving boards have to dip before you can launch.
You have to fall down in order to get up.
You need to have those bike pedals crack you in the shin every once in a while in order to learn to be a bit more careful with those nasty things.
The point is, you can look at dips any way you want, but the truly successful people realize that the set-backs are actually just ways to change the narrative in order to create a truly successful story.
Don’t let the steps back stop you from dancing to success.
I believe, too often, we (myself included) have a tendency to listen to others in order to respond.
We really should listen to learn.
It is harder than it sounds.
In order to listen to learn, we must be connected, intentionally hearing what others have to say. We must also silence our thoughts as they naturally attempt to formulate a rebuttal or an application to ourselves.
When we truly “lend an ear” to those we are with, we grow in compassion, connection and improve.
Until I saw this post, I have never heard of the term “destination addiction.”
However, I definitely knew it existed.
So many people “search” for happiness.
We humans tend to think that the next big job, the next big move, the next big date, the next big meal, the next WHATEVAHS will bring us happiness.
We are, essentially, little kids asking our father “When we will get there? (or “Are we there yet?)” Thinking that happiness will arrive “just over the next hill.”
The truth is that we will NEVER arrive at happiness.
We must choose to be happy now, or at least to find slivers of happiness amidst our suffering (if that is our current state).
Nothing brings happiness to us.
We DECIDE to find happiness in the now. Then we can cultivate that seed of happiness and it will continue to grow.
I loved the statement one of her patients made to her “Maybe happiness is sometimes.”
Too often, we humans think in absolutes and extremes.
I am happy or I am sad.
I am “all in” or I am doing nothing.
I am successful or I am a failure.
Life doesn’t work that way.
In fact:
————————————-The spectrum between extremes is long and beautiful—————————–
I believe that when we focus on the extremes, it gives us a reason to gravitate toward one end of that spectrum, and more often than not, it’s the side we want to be on.
The truth is, life is full of ups and downs, big wins, small failures, big failures, tiny victories, extreme jubilation, crippling depression, laughing out loud’s, chuckling very quietly’s, overwhelming fear, extreme confidence… and everything in between.
When we give too much power to the extremes in life, it renders our true existence powerless.
We need to realize that life is a conglomerate. And it is ok to be happy or victorious or depressed or successful SOMETIMES.
We can even substitute “sometimes” for “most times” on many of these things (and if we looked at our lives, we probably would realize we gravitate more toward the positive side than the negative) and that is truly O.K.
In fact, that is why we are alive.
So, today, try not to focus on extremes. Realize that being somewhere along the scale is where we are supposed to be that moment, and that we can tip the scales in the direction we choose.
We don’t have to be successful or happy all the time (in fact, if that is our goal, we are doomed for failure).
Realize, life is a journey and no matter where we are right now, we can choose to get back on the ride and enjoy ALL OF IT.
The true joy in life comes not from the accolades, finish lines or etc.
True joy is found on the journey toward our goals.
We may not realize it at the time, because putting in the work to get to where we want to go, is hard.
However, without the “struggle”, our achievements would be far less meaningful.
The award you win for completing a 10k would be a glorified paperweight if it was easy to achieve.
Even an Olympic medal would be just another shiny object if winning it was easy.
So, no matter how hard the struggle is now, realize that in the end, this time, this toil and this work you are putting in will truly lead to a more fulfilling life.
You will always presented with obstacles, or as my brother likes to call them “hurdles” in life.
They key is to just keep jumping. (Or in some cases, if that hurdle is meant for a giant, find another way around, under or through)
I truly hope you are not in the middle a huge tumultuous storm in your life right now, but if you are, I also hope you realize you have exactly what it takes to overcome, and to get to the calm on the other side.
You are THE ONLY person capable of living your amazing, exciting and challenging life.
Taken from “Maybe You Should Talk To Someone” by Lori Gottlieb
The other day, I was driving with my son. It had been one of those days where I was lost in thought, thinking of what I needed to get done before Christmas.
He interrupted my thoughts to point out a house that was wonderfully decorated and lit up with Christmas lights.
It was an amazing sight. (Well, maybe not as amazing as our very own Christmas Llama on our front lawn, but still…)
The point is, our world at any given moment is what we choose to observe.
Our world is made up of what we bring with us.
If we are negative because of a crappy morning, the world is going to be dulled, less beautiful.
If we are in a soaring mood, we will notice the beauty all around.
The good news is we can choose what we bring with us.
We can decide to imbibe all the craziness that is social media, relish in nasty comments.
We can decide to fume over some slight that happened to us yesterday.
We can decide to listen to music that only makes us cry more.
We can decide to switch the playlist and listen to joy.
We can read beautiful poetry.
We can fuel our souls with good food, good company and positivity.
We can decide how beautiful our world will be today by bringing whatever amount of beauty we want with us on today’s journey.
“Because at the end of the day, love wins.” (Taken from Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb).
If you’ve had any bad days lately (pretty sure most of us have), the key to not carrying it over to the next day is to realize that one day doesn’t create a month or year or etc.
The key is to resize that after the 24 hours, that day is done.
Over-with.
Kaput.
The sun comes up again in the morning ($100 you are hearing Annie’s voice in your head now, bet your bottom dollar) and you get another chance at another day.
One way to push toward a better mañana is to end the day with love.
Stop and breathe. Be grateful that you had a day (even if it was “a day”), and find something to love about the day. Even if it is something incredibly small.
Then, take some time to tell someone you love them.
Finally, take some time to tell yourself that you are loved.
End the day with love, because the truth is LOVE AWAYS WINS.
Dissemination of Inspiration 