Category: self growth

Ruminate or Marinate?

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It is so easy to worry, especially today.

Uncertainty promotes fear which feeds worry.

Worries are imaginary friends (and I call them friends because we do seem to spend a lot of time with them).

When we ruminate in worry, we rob our soul of joy.

Worry and hope/faith are two sides of the same coin, and we can choose which one to focus on.

Neither our hopes/dreams or our worries/fears have happened, so they both don’t exist. We just give power to them by virtue of our thoughts and emotions.

So we can choose.

We can stop ruminating in worry, and instead marinate in dreams and positive visions for the future.

It really is that simple.

But simple ain’t EASY.

We need to put in some work, to train our minds to focus on hope rather than fear, it doesn’t come naturally.

Get busy working/marinating today, create that habit of doing so and it will become easier.

And the future will taste all the more delicious for us doing so.

Happy Thursday!

-Dr. Lindeman

Peace

This past weekend , my family and I had a wonderful trip to Folly Beach, South Carolina.

We breathed the ocean air in deep and enjoyed connection with each other.

In the meantime, mayhem was erupting (with cause).

I know I am privileged. I know my family is too. I do work hard, and we try to teach our children about viewing the world through others’ lenses as well. And I cannot imagine the amount of pain, and fear that a large portion of our population are feeling (and have been feeling for decades).

I am also afraid of the extremism that exists today. White, black, left, right, anti-(fill in the blank), pro-(fill in the blank), stay home bc of covid, re-open, etc. The divisions are real and very polarizing.

I believe the answers lie in empathy. We can have our own viewpoints but we should try to understand others as well. We can “stand our ground” but we also must try to see the other territory. If we can promote love, compassion and try for some understanding, the world will be more peaceful.

So try to do that a bit today. Have some conversations with others who don’t feel the way you do. Try to see their side. I can almost guarantee, they will have some valid points, just as much as I can guarantee you will as well.

Spread some love today. Promote peace.

Happy Tuesday

-Dr Lindeman

Multiple choices

In any given situation, we always have choices.

In situations of adversity or success, we will always have options, and depending on how we choose, the results can easily flip the situation on its head (adversity—>success, success—>adversity).

Situations never define us, it’s how we react to them that creates who we are, and sets the stage for our future.

We can achieve a victory and then stop practicing. We can obtain the amazing job, and therefore become complacent in learning. We can lose 20 lbs and then decide we can stop exercising.

All of these successful situations are wonderful, but the decisions after the achievement can create a more negative future.

Likewise, we can lose the race, and decide to train harder. We can fail an exam and decide to study more. We can find ourselves in quarantine, and decide to create paths to a better future with our time.

Even when things ‘royally suck’, it’s truly how we react to them that matters most.

We are NEVER victims of our circumstance. We are only truly victims of how we react to them.

You always have options…Choose wisely my friends!

Happy Wednesday!

-Dr Lindeman

Drive your own car, Captain!

When you are driving down the highway, do you pull up next to the person driving in the next lane and try to figure out how they are driving?

Where are their hands positioned?

Are their windows down?

What temperature do they keep their air conditioning at?

What sort of music are they listening to?

Of course not!

You need to worry about how you drove your own vehicle.

The point is, no one can drive/walk/live your life except you! So why do we compare ourselves to others?

We should definitely learn from other’s mistakes and successes, sure, but ultimately we need to be at the helm of our own lives.

Get driving, because only YOU can take YOU to where YOU want to go!

Happy driving (might I suggest jamming to this song by The Surfaces? Just a suggestion, feel free to skip it, Captain 👨‍✈️)

Have a glorious Wednesday!

-Dr Lindeman

Your smile changes the world

Especially fitting during these times.

Your smile can change the world! It can light up someone’s day, it can push away the dark.

Just make sure you are using that gift and not letting it go dormant.

Complacency kills.

We need to arm ourselves with more positivity and more light in order to push back the dark.

So 😀😁😆😂🤣🙂😍 all you can today 🙂

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Hello everyone!

These are strange days indeed.

The Covid-19 epidemic is a scary one.

BUT WE CAN’T LET FEAR DRIVE OUR BUS.

Be cautious. Stay at home. Wash your hands. Eat well. Drink well. Think well. Maintain your health.

MAINTAIN YOUR SANITY!

It is ok to read up on the spread of the virus. Just don’t get caught up in it.

Make the most of the time you have at home with your families.

In some respects, you are gaining time to do things that you’ve always wanted to do, but have never had time for.

Jon Gordon (a tremendous motivational speaker/author) wrote The Energy Bus when during a personal crisis his world “slowed down” and he was able to write the book in 3.5 weeks. Since then the book has sold an unimaginable amount of copies, and launched a world-wide speaking and writing career for him.

By all means, social distance, but that opens to door to form better, stronger connections with our loved ones  we are close to.

Write letters to people that have influenced and inspired you in your lifetime.

Thank your parents.

Video call the grandparents.

Send thank you cards to veterans that have helped solidify our freedoms.

Write a book.

Write some poetry.

Sing songs. Even if it’s just in the shower.

Download audiomixing software and become your own DJ.

TikTok?

Dust off those old board games and play as a family.

Meditate.

Exercise.

Figure out what you do so well that others will want to see/read/hear how you do it and spread that around. Teach others via social media/email/video.

Re-organize your living space. Feng some serious Shui in your domicile!

Paint, color, draw…

Don’t let this time stifle your growth, instead allow it to be a vector to it’s spread!

And for goodness sakes, stop hoarding all the T.P!. 🙂

I love you all.

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This too shall pass.

-Love and peace to you,

Dr. Lindeman

 

Never made a mistake?

This was sent to my by a good friend this morning (thanks Hartman). His dad took a picture of it on his travels.

And Thanks to Albert for the reminder of this simple truth.

In order to grow, we have to fail, we have to make mistakes.

The key to growth is the fall and the DECISION to get back up and keep going.

March on my friends!

-Dr Lindeman

The path to excellence?

“There is no golden road to excellence; excellence is the golden road. Until you start down this road you will never get there.”-Jim Afremow “A Champions’s mind”.

It’s the manner in which you try to achieve your potential that defines you as a champion, not medals, titles or accolades.