Obstacles are meant to be overcome

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“Remember, if everything came easy we wouldn’t know what it felt like to truly succeed. Obstacles are meant to be overcome. Fear is meant to be conquered. Success is meant to be achieved.
Believe. Take Action. Play to Win Today.” Jon Gordon
Thank you, Jessica for sharing this today!
A long time ago, my brother and I talked about life’s obstacles were like hurdles, and we coined a phrase to help each other along: “Just Keep Jumping.”
Jump over your obstacles to a brighter future!
-Dr. Lindeman
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SPREAD LOVE

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Thank you for sharing this Ashley!

Sprinkle love wherever you go! (Show some courage! Did you know the root word of courage is cor which is Latin for heart/love? Read more about that and how it connects here!)

The world will be better for it!

-Dr Lindeman

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Excuses or Excellence

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I saw this post from a colleague this morning and needed to share.

This is a great symbol of how obstacles can hold you back or propel you forward. Mr. Thorpe could have freaked out and given up. Without his shoes, how could he stand to run/compete?

Instead he found a solution and went on to win gold… TWICE!

What obstacles can you overcome in order to propel yourself forward?

For more, here is a chapter from my book Purposely Positive: How to Live an Intentional and Inspired Life available on Amazon.

 

Constant Change

“He who rejects change is the architect of decay. The only human institution which rejects progress is the cemetery.”

—Harold Wilson

“The great tragedy of life is often not in our failure, but rather in our complacency; not in our doing too much, but rather in doing too little; not in our living above our ability, but rather in our living below our capacities.”

—Benjamin E. Mays

Change is the only constant in life. A smart man named Heraclitus said something quite similar to that a few years back (somewhere between 535 B.C. and 475 B.C.). “There is nothing permanent, except change.” Things have changed quite a bit since the B.C. years (see what I did there?), but the truth remains: almost everything is changing, all around us, constantly. Just notice the different seasons (unless you live along the equator where the seasons are pretty much the same, then you might not have a concept of what I am talking about). As time passes, everything on this Earth is transforming. The grass you stand on today is not the same grass you stood on last year. The air you are breathing today is different than what you breathed yesterday. I hope what you’re having for lunch is different than what you’ve had every day for the past few months. You are not who you were last year, let alone thirty years ago. So don’t let your past define your future. You couldn’t really do that even if you tried.

Living off your accomplishments from the past may get you a bit ahead in the here and now, but not for very long. And hiding who you can become due to some mistakes you might have made in the past is just as idiotic and worthless. Pride and regret are the parents of lethargy. If you want to have a pulse, you’re going to need to accept that change is happening, and it’s happening at this very moment.

Take your amazing body, for example. Red blood cells have about a four-month lifespan. The cells that line your trachea live for about one to two months; the lining of your small intestine for two to four days. The lining of your stomach for two to nine days. Your fat cells…eight years (I know. I was hoping we could kill those guys off a bit quicker). All these cells inside your body are constantly changing and reforming, over and over again. One other interesting thing about this short list you just read… the more possible “trauma” to the cells, usually the faster the turnaround and the faster the growth. Isn’t that interesting?

Growth is necessary for survival. If you aren’t expanding your horizons, you’re slowly dying. Growth happens quicker the more trauma you feel and the more you experience challenges. So don’t shy away from opportunities to grow. Challenges are usually doors to a brighter future. Now I’m not saying go “traumatize” yourself on purpose. Diving head first into a pool without water will definitely cause some challenges, but not the kind I’m thinking of. I’m saying the true masterminds, the successes, the outliers and the high performers in life, have learned to look for the opportunities hidden inside the challenges. They don’t just “roll with the punches” of change. They use those punches to propel them into something greater.

If you are willing to accept from the evidence previously presented (just re-read a couple paragraphs higher on the page for a refresher)—that change is always happening—then you must realize these changes can be perceived as positive or negative. You’re going to experience troubles and exhilarations, that is the plain and simple truth. When the victories come, celebrate, and plan on the next one. When the knock downs happen, don’t let them keep you there. Realize that within these traumas lies the opportunity to grow at an even faster rate. You learn more from episodes viewed as losses than from the “wins.” So when you are getting your butt kicked in life, take a moment to just think: “OK, so this is crappy. But I know from the science of intestinal cell turnover that I will grow from this experience quicker than I would have had I not gone through this crap-storm.”

So, what are you going to learn from this change? How can you let this experience propel you more toward the person you want to be?”

On the other side of the “what’s going on in your life” coin—things could be fantastic. I truly hope things are the best they’ve ever been in your life. Truly, I do. But it’s my job to tell you this… things won’t always be that way.

I’m not saying eventually the other shoe will drop (I never really understood the significance of that phrase… why in the hell would anyone be fearful of a shoe falling? Where would it be falling from? And why do they have only one shoe currently?). What I am saying is that things will indeed change. No matter where things are right now, it’s an absolute certainty that they won’t always be this way. They may be better, they may be worse, but they won’t just BE. Complacency guarantees a down-hill slide. Always playing it safe is the exact same as not playing at all. Complacency breeds boredom. Boredom is the enemy of inspiration.

A positive, vibrant, inspiring life cannot be attained through complacency. Such a life requires evolution.

Lou Holtz, a wildly successful former Notre Dame Football coach, has been quoted as saying “If what you did yesterday seems big, you haven’t done anything today.” Due to the inarguable certainty that things will not always be as they are right now, you cannot rest on past accomplishments. By the very nature of nature itself, unless you are progressing, you are failing. I’m not saying you need to stockpile success after success (that isn’t the way the world works, either), but if you are sedentary in your aims, if you rest for too long, if you don’t accept that you need to evolve along with the world, you will go absolutely nowhere (but at least you will travel with caution), and the trophies you’ve earned up until this moment will look great in your cabinet but will wither and become rusted relics with time.

Don’t give up trying, even if you think you’ve “made it.” There really isn’t a difference between the person who never begins and the person who sits back on their past successes: both people are still just sitting. As Will Rodgers put it: “Even if you are on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.”

Learn. Explore. Try. Experiment. Veer. Attempt. Dabble. Break habits. Form new ones. You might just like the person you become even more than who you were before…

Purposely Positive Exercise: Whatcha Wanna Do?

Grab your notebook and do the following:

  • Write down something that you’d love to improve on
  • Have you ever wanted to learn to play the Ukulele?
  • Wondered how to crochet?
  • Desired to dabble in Japanese Calligraphy?
  • Do you want to improve your tiramisu-baking game?
  • Consider: What is a “hobby” you’ve always thought “looks interesting,” but you’ve never looked into it more than that? (I can almost guarantee there’s an app for that.)
  • Research how you can improve in that area. Library book? Wikipedia? YouTube? Take a class at the local community college?
  • Go do the thing you wrote down—give yourself the gift of change. In today’s world, there are countless ways to learn something new, or to improve a skill you have a hankering to be better at.

“When a team has camaraderie and clarity, progress is inevitable.”

SO VERY true!

A couple of keys here…

Who is on your “team”?

Your life is full of different groups of people. Your family, your friends, your co-workers, and your mentors.

Make sure you are surrounding yourself with people who can lift you up, push you to excel and share a common vision.

When you can gather these teams, enjoy each other, work to improve together, support one another with clarity, there is no way to go but up.

When you have the right support environment, you will be propelled toward your dreams.

Surround yourself with the good peeps, my friends :)!

Have a wonderful Tuesday!

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Comparison Crazy?

“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.”-Iyanla Vanzant

That is a great quote, but… we all must have at least a little masochist in us because we (as humans) sure do love to compare.

We stack ourselves up against our neighbors, co-workers, teachers, bosses, athletes and celebrities. In essence we are toddlers at times, building towers of blocks if only to knock them down.

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If comparison is human nature, why should we stop at comparing ourselves to someone who is in better shape, or makes more money, or has a better yard? Why not compare ourselves to people that have been immortalized in history? Why not compare who we are to people the likes of Martin Luther King Jr, Albert Einstein or Nelson Mandela.

Nelson Mandela helped end apartheid in South Africa, served 27 years in prison for what he believed in, promoted equal rights among all people, was a catalyst for peace and has been described as an “icon of democracy, social justice and courage.” (Wikepedia).

Sounds like someone I could aspire to be.

So how do I compare? I live in Broomfield, Colorado (not a lot of apartheid going on), I am white, I have not spent 27 years in prison…my blocks don’t really stack up.

During his imprisonment, it is said that the poem “Invictus” by William Ernest Henley helped sustain him.

“Out of the night that covers me, black as the pit from pole to pole. I thank whatever gods may be for my unconquerable soul. In the fell clutch of circumstance, I have not winched nor cried aloud. Under the bludgeons of fate, my head is bloody but unbowed. Beyond this place of wrath and tears looms but the horror of the shade. And yet the menace of the years finds and shall find me, unafraid. It matters not how strait the gate, how charged with punishments the scroll. I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.”

Pretty amazing poem. Undoubtedly, William Ernest Henley was a great writer/poet, but I had never heard of him until the connection to Nelson Mandela came about (and the movie Invictus was released).

Maybe I can compare myself to William Ernest Henley instead. And here’s why…

A guy most people hadn’t heard of, wrote a poem a long time ago that later inspired another guy so much he was able to survive 27 years in prison, change a nation, promote equality and go down in history as a truly amazing individual. 

“We never know how far somethign we think, say or do today will affect the lives of millions tomorrow.“-BJ Palmer

No matter what your vocation is at the current moment, you will most likely interact with other people every single day.

The science of Epigenetics tells us that as human beings, we can switch on or off certain genes/traits by virtue of our interactions with others throughout our lives. Who we interact with daily can truly affect who we become (and what we pass on to future generations).

If that is a bit too “sciency” for you today, just think about the infectiousness of a smile. Research shows that when we mimic another person’s facial expression, our bodies secrete hormones to match. When a smile is repeated (which is almost a given, have you ever tried not to smile back at someone smiling at you?) the repeater releases oxytocin, dopamine, their stress levels decrease and they feel better inside. The smile truly infected the other person.

When we foster an environment of joy, happiness, compassion and love for our fellow humans, we can ignite those feelings in everyone we come in contact with.

Let’s just assume you interact with 20 people today (a low estimate)…

16.2 million people suffer from a depressive episode every year, 47% of people in the US (in one large survey) stated they lie awake at night at least once a month due to stress, and 44,000 people attempt suicide every year. Those are some alarming statistics.

What if just one of the people you interact with today fit into the above statistics? Doesn’t seem that far-fetched, does it?

What if through your kindness, you reduce their stress levels? What if through your compassion, you provide hope to them? What if through your connection, they in turn become connected to others (at their work, their home)? What if by bringing the best your humanity has to offer today, you can inspire others to do the same? One of those people may very well find the cure for cancer, or write a poem that a century from now inspires the next world leader?

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We have no idea the ripple affect our simple kindness and compassion may create.

So if we are going to compare, why compare ourselves to a Super Bowl MVP, or someone with an amazing backyard, some lady gracing the cover of US Magazine, or the person who won the Academy Award for Best Costume Design in a Short Foreign-Language Animated Film… all of these comparisons are equally trivial.

Maybe we should think of William Ernest Henley. We can do something today that helps others live their optimal lives, and maybe in doing so, they can change the world for the better.

Have a wonderful Wendesday! I wish you to be happy, healthy and whole!

-Dr. Joel Lindeman

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