Tag: compassion

Love is power

Thank you, Erin (Chiropractic Assistant Extraordinaire) for sharing this!

It fits right in with a great talk a colleague (Dr Kerry Iselin) gave last night.

He discussed how before his afternoon shift, he prepared by increasing his vibration of love. He sits in calm, quiet and just brings to mind the people, things, experiences he loves that day.

This exercise helps him feel grounded, loving, removes stress, fear and worry, and in fact makes him more powerful and ready to serve.

I think Van Gough would agree.

Today, take a page from his playbook.

Think about everything and everyone you love for a few moments before starting in any task, and revel at how much better you feel and your increased ability to accomplish tasks and make a more positive impact on those around you.

Much love to you all!

Happy Wednesday!

-Dr Lindeman

The paradox of intention

Vishen Lakhiani (creator of Mindvalley.com) discussed a phenomenon known as “the paradox of intention” in a great talk you can find here.

He discusses 4 states of being. Think of a square with four boxes.

People can be happy now, unhappy now, have small dreams of the future or have big dreams of the future.

Too often people are not hitting the sweet spot (upper right if you are playing along at home). People tend to be content now and not thinking of future growth, or sadly more-often-than-not, unhappy now but big dreams of the future.

The caveat is this: in order for true growth to occur, we need to be happy now but with big dreams of the future as well.

So dream big, but also be extremely grateful for how far you’ve already come in life.

Start with gratitude, smile big and keep on dreaming-all are factors to make those dreams come true!

Happy Monday!

-Dr Lindeman

Focus on happy

Live in the moment.

As human beings we have the amazing ability to think about the past and the present which is pretty cool, except when those thoughts take us away from the present.

Studies have shown that our minds are prone to wonder which actually decreases not only our ability to focus on tasks at hand, but actually decreases our happiness.

When we can focus, and even more so when we can train our ability to do so (via activities such as meditation), we can improve our happiness in the moment and for the future 🙂

Happy Monday!

-Dr Lindeman

Focus and connect, leave your mark

There is a misconception that multitasking is a good thing.

Research shows when we attempt to multi task we do all of those tasks at about 33% efficiency.

This doesn’t just apply to work.

When we are with our family, talking with a friend or etc, our minds are prone to wander and we lose our focus.

We don’t listen whole-heartedly, and we don’t connect fully.

People may never remember what you tell them but they will always remember how you made them feel.

When you are focused and connected, rather than wandering and “multi tasking” you will ensure they fee listened to and appreciated.

So focus people! And focus ON the person in front of you 🙂

Happy Thursday!

-Dr Lindeman

Life’s paper cuts/little triggers

In my book, one chapter is dedicated to the fact that life’s small inconveniences (spilled coffee, stepping in a mud puddle, etc) can exponentially create an entire “bad day.”

We tend to overreact to small problems when compared to large ones.

In the book, “Stumbling on Happiness” by Daniel Gilbert, he discusses WHY these little triggers (as he titles them) can cause more havoc than big, devastating events.

We have a psychological immune systems, like many systems in our bodies, work with thresholds. When something is large enough to go over that threshold a defense mechanism is triggered and set into motion. We can rationalize a breakup with someone we love. We can overcome fractures, dislocations, and the links easier than we can overcome a slice to the pinky toe. We can move on stronger when we don’t get the job we sorely wanted more easily than we can overcome ruining our favorite shirt with a bbq stain.

When the attack is under our threshold, we don’t deploy our defensive “troops” to overcome the insult.

So what does this mean?

It means we are amazing, first of all.

We were created with extreme resiliency to overcome huge challenges.

It also means we need to be more vigilant in working through the little things in order to circumvent their effects.

Be conscious of life’s little cuts, and actively work to overcome them. The big stuff, most likely, we are already prepared for.

Happy Wednesday!

-Dr Lindeman

Bodacious Bridge Building

I attended (via Zoom) an amazing conference this past weekend.

There were a LOT of great speakers, but one of my favorites had these two gems:

“You need to be willing to give up what you want now, for what you truly want forever” and “discipline is the bridge between our goals and achievements.” – Dr Jennifer Knobbe

It was a great reminder and impetus for me to start re-building bridges to where I truly want to go.

It’s easy to get comfortable in the moment. It’s easy to do things that make us a tiny bit happier than putting in a tiny bit more work would.

It is imperative to refresh and to re-energize in order to succeed, but there are times and places for that.

I realized I was taking breaks when I should have been working on my dreams, AND taking breaks when I was supposed to be taking breaks.

Coasting never creates momentum (unless it is downhill).

We don’t need to push ourselves so hard that we give up. But, we all know when we could use a bit more push in order to succeed, and I am truly grateful for those reminders.

Thank you Dr Knobbe (and all the other amazing speakers, many of which I will probably quote in the coming weeks 🙂

Get building those bridges!

Happy Tuesday!

-Dr Lindeman

Peace

This past weekend , my family and I had a wonderful trip to Folly Beach, South Carolina.

We breathed the ocean air in deep and enjoyed connection with each other.

In the meantime, mayhem was erupting (with cause).

I know I am privileged. I know my family is too. I do work hard, and we try to teach our children about viewing the world through others’ lenses as well. And I cannot imagine the amount of pain, and fear that a large portion of our population are feeling (and have been feeling for decades).

I am also afraid of the extremism that exists today. White, black, left, right, anti-(fill in the blank), pro-(fill in the blank), stay home bc of covid, re-open, etc. The divisions are real and very polarizing.

I believe the answers lie in empathy. We can have our own viewpoints but we should try to understand others as well. We can “stand our ground” but we also must try to see the other territory. If we can promote love, compassion and try for some understanding, the world will be more peaceful.

So try to do that a bit today. Have some conversations with others who don’t feel the way you do. Try to see their side. I can almost guarantee, they will have some valid points, just as much as I can guarantee you will as well.

Spread some love today. Promote peace.

Happy Tuesday

-Dr Lindeman

Never made a mistake?

This was sent to my by a good friend this morning (thanks Hartman). His dad took a picture of it on his travels.

And Thanks to Albert for the reminder of this simple truth.

In order to grow, we have to fail, we have to make mistakes.

The key to growth is the fall and the DECISION to get back up and keep going.

March on my friends!

-Dr Lindeman

Stop should-ing all over yourself

I heard something great in church this weekend.

“We need to stop should-ing 💩 all over ourselves!”

I loved it!

If you are exercising, reading, eating well, in a relationship, etc, because you feel you “should” be….stop!

Guilt is a repressor, not a motivator.

Instead, find reasons why you WANT to do those things. If you want to do them to form a brighter future, for instance, latch on to that, and let go of the “should.”

Have a monumental Monday, friends!

-Dr Lindeman