I just started reading: Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb (check it out here ) and I like it so far!
This line is great and bears repeating: “It’s not as if we’re going to peer in those darker corners, flip on the light, and find a bunch of cockroaches. Fireflies love the dark too. There’s beauty in those places. But we have to look in there to see it.”
So true!
I truly wish the stigma of mental health could be washed away.
Especially now, with all the craziness of the pandemic, disconnection, solitude, political and social turmoil…we need others to help keep our lives sane.
We need to talk to somebody.
I have gone to counselors and therapists numerous times.
It’s not because I am “crazy.”
It’s because I finally realized that with my drive to improve my life, my family’s life and to improve the world, sometimes I need different people riding shotgun, helping me navigate through my past, present and future.
Sometimes we need professionals to help guide us through the muck and mire.
And I, for one, am so thankful they are there and I have access to these people.
So please, if you are feeling stressed, depressed, low…know there are truly wonderful people out there that will help you see the fireflies in the darkness.
Don’t ever suffer alone.
The world needs you and holding it al in yourself isn’t helping anyone.
And again, sometimes it’s great to talk to someone just about your big dreams and aspirations and they can help you balance them all so ambition doesn’t drive you wild.
You can coast, go downhill (usually the same thing as coasting) or you can grow.
In life we will all stumble, fall down and make big mistakes.
The key to GROWTH is accepting those mistakes (not excepting them :), learning from them and using that knowledge/wisdom as fuel toward a better tomorrow.
Growth can only occur amidst struggle.
Growth can only occur when we make mistakes.
BIG growth can only occur when we learn from those mistakes, convert that knowledge into wisdom and push forward with purpose and passion.
So, on this Tuesday, the 1st of September, 2020, don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
My kids start school today, as does my wife (she’s a teacher).
They are going to be remote learning for at least a month, and although they have had meetings, preparation times, etc, no one really knows what it is going to look, feel and sound like for sure.
Both boys admitted they were nervous this morning, and my wife most certainly is from her end.
It is going to be very interesting this year.
However, with uncertainty comes huge opportunity for growth.
There is no progress without struggle. And there will be struggles.
But, if we can all realize that growth occurs most swiftly during large challenges, we can realize that through this muck and mire, we all will emerge all the better for it.
My heart, thoughts and love go out to all the families, kids, teachers going through this.
We will all get through to a much brighter future!
In our office, we call them B.H.AG.s. Big Hairy Audacious Goals.
We need to dream dreams that take our breath away!
So don’t match your dreams to you current reality, what’s the fun in that?
Dream big.
Then get busy realizing that those goals.
By taking steps (even little ones) in their direction, you give those audacious goals a trim, and the more steps you take, you can see they aren’t so hairy (nor audacious) after all.
Brendon Burchard is a phenomenal writer and has inspired me multiple times.
This is spot on!
If we could take the time to repeat this as a mantra throughout our days, imagine how much better our days would go and how much larger of an impact we could have for the benefit of others!
“The past is a foreign country, they do things differently there.”-L.P. Hartley
“But plant your hope with good seeds, don’t cover yourself with thistle and weeds,”-Mumford and Sons, (Thistle and weeds song title)
In the book: Grit by Angela Duckworth, she discusses one of the main differences between people who have a growth mindset vs people with a fixed mindset is that those with a fixed mindset (feeling that achievements have a lower ceiling than others) carry around a feeling of hopelessness for change.
Most of the time this hopelessness comes from a negative past.
As L.P. Hartley eloquently put it, when we travel to the future, we leave the past behind. We cannot let the anchors of our past weigh us down from taking flight toward our future.
By all means, consider your current situation.
But also realize, that with hope, the future will look vastly brighter.
Dream big, plant seeds and sprout forth to a more meaningful and positive future.