In my book, one chapter is dedicated to the fact that life’s small inconveniences (spilled coffee, stepping in a mud puddle, etc) can exponentially create an entire “bad day.”
We tend to overreact to small problems when compared to large ones.
In the book, “Stumbling on Happiness” by Daniel Gilbert, he discusses WHY these little triggers (as he titles them) can cause more havoc than big, devastating events.
We have a psychological immune systems, like many systems in our bodies, work with thresholds. When something is large enough to go over that threshold a defense mechanism is triggered and set into motion. We can rationalize a breakup with someone we love. We can overcome fractures, dislocations, and the links easier than we can overcome a slice to the pinky toe. We can move on stronger when we don’t get the job we sorely wanted more easily than we can overcome ruining our favorite shirt with a bbq stain.
When the attack is under our threshold, we don’t deploy our defensive “troops” to overcome the insult.
So what does this mean?
It means we are amazing, first of all.
We were created with extreme resiliency to overcome huge challenges.
It also means we need to be more vigilant in working through the little things in order to circumvent their effects.
Be conscious of life’s little cuts, and actively work to overcome them. The big stuff, most likely, we are already prepared for.
Happy Wednesday!
-Dr Lindeman
Dissemination of Inspiration 