Tag: self help

High fives! 🙌

You should definitely check out The Ed Mylett podcast and Mel Robbins book: The High Give Habit

There is power (and research) in celebrating small victories, congratulating ourselves, and setting intention.

One thing the book and this podcast episode touches on is the fact that, unfortunately, we are prone to feeling unworthy of celebration. In fact we are prone to feeling unworthy in general.

We can raise that baseline simply by incorporating small celebrations and acknowledgements of our amazing worthy-ness into our daily lives.

We all deserve love. And we definitely deserve to love ourselves.

We have survived every crazy challenge that has been put before us to this point.

We have overcome many obstacles.

We do A LOT of things l, very well, every day.

We impact lives (whether we know it or not).

We have style.

We have grace.

We smile, we laugh, we love, we help, we even provide energy for others (including nature).

We are amazing.

Listen ti the podcast, read the book, and HIGH FIVE yourselves today!

Happy Tuesday

-Dr Lindeman

Not in spite of… BECAUSE of

I love this quote. My uncle posted it on Facebook, actually.

So thank you, Uncle Al.

This quote is sooo true. I recently read a great book “The Obstacle is The Way” by Ryan Holiday.

The whole premise is that, contrary to popular opinion, our challenges don’t hold us back, in fact they are exactly what propel us forward.

Now, I don’t think we should go looking for tragedy.

Life is hard enough.

But I do think we need to take a good look at our challenges and think about how, when we overcome our obstacles, our lives will be improved.

It is impossible to grow without obstacles.

In fact, in a human embryo, if the cells are not stressed, they don’t divide and grow.

How many instances can you think of that felt horrible at the time, (a lost job, a break-up, a “no”, a door closing) that actually allowed a much brighter future to manifest?

It’s ok to get upset about challenges.

However, realize that these challenges he’s are what will actually create the future you desire. Or even more, they will allow a much brighter future than you imagined take shape.

So smile in the face of adversity, and know the challenges are your building blocks to your dream life.

Happy Monday!

-Dr Lindeman

Fuel your fire

It is all fuel.

The wonderfully amazing times.

The crippling negative ones.

Your current life up to know is fuel for your future.

Who you are now is a conglomeration of your entire past, and who you are now is fuel that will help you become who you want to be.

So remember, you can use whatever you are going though, positive or negative, as propulsion to get you to where you want to go.

Fuel your fire today!

-Dr Lindeman

Profit < Trust

I love this tidbit from Simon Sinek.

The awesome thing is (for the most part) if we focus on why we do what we do, we gain the trust of the people we serve.

When we gain trust, profit will become a de facto result.

The key is to focus on why, and do what we do out of service mentality.

The money is always secondary and will come when we focus on the truly important things.

Happy Tuesday!

-Dr Lindeman

Evaluate yourself/not others

I love this!

The key is to evaluate and improve oneself, not criticize and demean.

When we have a vision of who we want to become and can evaluate what it will take to grow into that person (constructive criticism not be-littling or self-depreciating) it will actually make us happier in the pursuit.

Again, there is a HUGE difference between evaluating and improving versus criticizing and condemning. The goal is to grow into our vision and that starts with acceptance of who/where we are and then finding and implementing the “tweaks” we need in order for that vision to come to fruition.

One other option, as the quote above implies, is to sit on our haunches and be so self-satisfied that we find flaws and judge others harshly.

That option helps noone and absolutely hurts our own souls.

So I choose option 1 ;).

I love who I am and where I am at in life, and I also know I (and the world) will love and benefit from who I am becoming even more!

Happy Thursday!

-Dr. Lindeman

What are you focused on?

Many times, we focus on results.

On the surface, seems like the best thing(s) to focus on. After all, results are the best and easiest things to measure.

However, when you think about it, no matter how hard we try: the results are exactly what we have only partial control over.

There are too many variables in life for us to think we can control them all and therefore can control our results.

Weather changes, tragedies, external stimuli, availability of the things we need, etc can and will throw wrenches in our path toward the results we desire.

Think if it this way: Our input x external stimuli = results

What we can control is the effort to change. We can control our side of the equation. And truth be told, usually if we focus on what we can control, the curveballs life throws at us will become more manageable and allow us to love toward the results we desire.

So today, focus on what you can control, your heart, your effort, your vision and then resize no matter the hurdles (the other factors in the equation), we will move forward.

Happy Monday!

-Dr Lindeman

Practice (visualize) the way you want to be/play

So I was looking for a practice putting mat to work on my (atrocious) putting at home.

I found this image on one of the items…

Let’s just say if this guy is practicing his “putting” this way at home, his wife/partner is not going to be very happy at the results of his play. (He’s going to put that ball right through the window and into the neighbor’s house.)

This got me thinking: When you “practice” your ideal future (a.k.a. visualize, dream, etc), make sure you are precise in your outcomes. It won’t help you too much if you visualize putting by lining up your driver and letting the big dog eat (so they say).

You need to get a clear picture in your mind of where you want to go, who you want to be and what you want to achieve.

Only then, can you take the baby steps it takes to succeed.

Happy Thursday!

-Dr. Lindeman

The Power of Positive Summit

So, if you’ve read anything I’ve ever written, you probably know I’m a believer in finding the positive, and that positivity is a choice.

That’s why I LOVE what Jon Gordon and his team put together once a year.

Check it out here: https://www.powerofpositivesummit.com

There are a lot of bite-sized inspirational talks, given by people from all walks of life (coaches, speakers, charity founders, teachers) and they are wonderful.

Some of my favorite quotes so far:

“You don’t choose your negative thoughts but you can choose not to listen to them”-Jay Glazer

“The best way to win the day is to win the moment. Moments turn into days, days into weeks and weeks into years.”-Doshia Woods

“Unshakeable confidence isn’t about the results. It’s about self awareness.”-David Nurse

“It’s not always the path of least resistance that gets you where you want to go, it’s the path that’s worth taking”-Sam Acho

“When we focus on honoring others as our mission in life, differences fade. Prejudice becomes a foreign concept.”- Miles McPherson

There are a LOT more. You should definitely check it out.

You most likely will find something there to help fuel you daily, and I guarantee it will make your Tuesday a little happier!

-Dr Lindeman

Growth not accolades

In his book, The Infinite Game, Simon Sinek discusses the ideas of constant improvement.

Too often, businesses (and individuals) look at this constant improvement in the form of procedures, policies, accolades, awards, etc.

There is absolutely nothing wrong woth all of that.

However, the true idea of constant improvement should come in the forms of improving teamwork, mindset, skills, connection with others, compassion and leadership.

These traits are more important because they drive us to create a better now, and to leave a better legacy fo the sake of our family, friends, customers, loved ones and communities. The accolades are achieved as a result of these things.

The great (and sometimes frustrating, depending on how you choose to look at it) thing about these intrinsic improvements (as opposed to accolades and awards) is that there is no “finish line.” The goal is to constantly improve, not to “arrive.”

So today, envision your life improving for the sake of improvement and any awards, goals or et cetera are just mile markers along the infinite game of life.

Have an amazing Tuesday!

-Dr Lindeman