Today, in my coursework video (The Science of Well-Being through Coursera in concert with Yale), the professor went over the term: hedonic adaptation.
The theory of hedonic adaptation or the hedonic treadmill is that as humans, we search for things/experiences that we feel will make us happy, but once we have them, their effect on our happiness dwindles with time.
You can’t wait to buy that new car, and it makes you so happy to drive around in it…for the first few months, then it becomes just a car.
You cannot wait to move into your new home, but after a few years, it is just your home.
The above may be slight exaggerations, but you get the gist.
Our brains are “wired” to get used to stuff. So even AMAZING things, become less amazing with time.
So how do we combat this natural ability to lessen our happiness?
For one: GRATITUDE.
Think back to things you were so happy to be able to purchase/experience in the past, and re-kindle that gratitude today.
Another way: focus on experiences, not things.
We all need things and it is perfectly ok to buy a new vehicle every once in a while, or shiny shoes or etc.
But research shows our happiness scores are higher and last longer when we experience things (vacations, meals, time with friends, etc), even when we believe they will not. Research also shows that, even though across the board we are happier, and the effects are longer lasting, with experiences, we tend to believe that we will be much happier with the thing that lasts longer rather than the fleeting experience.
So we need to trick our minds a bit and incorporate more experiences into our quest for happiness.
Vacations, bbqs, friendly games of corn-hole, sing and dance with your spouse/partner/friend/family at your house, sit outside with your family making smores around the fire-pit, go camping, etc.
These experiences are truly enjoyable, and the memories are fond and long lasting (in part because they END. The vehicle you buy will last for years, and you get accustomed to it’s presence). Experiences also allow us to feel we are benefitting others (oxytocin is a much longer lasting key to happiness feeling than dopamine. Oxytocin is released when we are connected with others, dopamine is more of a solitary hormone). Others benefit by joining us in the experience, and we can tell others about our experiences more than we can about our “things.” People also are much happier to hear about experiences rather than the new coat you bought 🙂
So get out there today (or if the pandemic limits that, start PLANNING your next experience), create a fuller, longer-lasting happiness by virtue of your experiences!
-Happy Tuesday!
Dr. Lindeman
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